Anonymous said: URGENT I asked this question earlier but I didnt put urgent so I'll do this again ad disregard the other asks. I am currently dating someone and i have just been able to put a label on what I've been feeling my whole life. I'm lithromantic. I have told my gf what repulses me and they are v nice about it. I wanna know if you've ever heard of someone bein able to keep a relationship that was aro or allo. Or even if you think it's possible. And whether or not I should keep trying for this. Meh
Mixed-orientation relationships are definitely possible, but they require a lot of communication on the parts of both (or all) parties. It’s definitely possible and I’ve heard of other lith or grey-aro people working through it with their partner, but it definitely requires a lot of coordination and compromise on the part of both parties to make it work, moreso than the average relationship.
Should you keep trying for this? Well, I don’t know. Should you? Do you think the benefit outweighs the lack of attraction/repulsion towards certain romantic things for you? If it doesn’t, then I would say maybe you want to reevaluate. If it does and you’re both happy as is, though, why ruin a good thing?
There seems to be a bit of uncertainty in your ask, though. If you don’t feel that you want a romantic relationship whatsoever or that the cons outweigh the pros, then I’d reevaluate. I would ask yourself: why are you in this relationship? Is there something you gain from it? That’s not something I can answer, it’s something only you can.