February 2012
45 posts
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Alternative Relationship Possibilities
outlawroad:
Nonsexual Romantic Life Partnership Between:
Two Romantic Asexuals (Ex: heteromantic asexual and heteromantic asexual)
Romantic Asexual and Mixed Orientation Sexual Person (Ex: homoromantic asexual with a homoromantic heterosexual)
Two Mixed Orientation Sexual People (two heteromantic homosexuals or two homoromantic heterosexuals, etc)
Two Romantic Sexual People Not Sexually...
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Aromantic.org & the flag.
arosecret:
“Because of the relative emptiness of the source site, it feels like something that was put together by a couple of people and not by a community. I like the ace flag because they at least attempted to get many peoples’ opinions and there is real thought behind it, real representation of the community.”
I’m actually one of the people who originally put together aromantic.org. At...
“Friendship is love as much as any romance. And like any love, it’s difficult and...”
– Naomi and Ely’s No Kiss List, Rachel Cohn and David Levithan (via asexyquotes)
FACT: Perhaps counter-intuitively, the best...
“Love gets so sexualized in our world. We start to feel like there is no love...”
– John Green (on writing Will Grayson, Will Grayson with David Levithan)
I feel a bit odd with conflating romantic love with sexuality, but this is a good quote.
Wiki for Aromantics
aromanticsanonymous:
Here it is! Still WAY under construction. Help flesh this thing out, guys!
Submitted by detectivepunchymhitsthings
Signal boost!
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I would just like to say.
mrmonochrome:
Queerplatonic friendships are not solely restricted to asexual individuals.
In fact, it doesn’t even make that much sense to say asexual rather than aromantic, where at least aromantic individuals may be more naturally inclined to pursue queerplatonic relationships. Aces have no obligation not to have a romantic relationship.
So why do people always assume that if you’re in a QP...
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Anonymous asked: I celebrate International Quirkyalone Day instead of Valentine's Day. I think it's the perfect replacement, and very aromantic friendly.
Sorry about all the posts today
Us aromantics just have a lot of feelings about valentine’s day, and I’m trying to reblog all the related posts while they’re still relevant! Bear with me.
This Valentine's Day, Love Yourself More
chroniccurve:
I don’t care much about Valentine’s day. It makes no difference to me whether or not I’m in a relationship with another person when the 14th rolls around because no matter who I am with, where I am, what day it is, or what I’m doing, the most important relationship I have is with myself.
It took an indescribable amount of loss and heartbreak for me to learn...
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Valentine's Apathy →
writingfromfactorx:
Also I wrote about most of the reason for today’s generalized grouchiness.
Ugh, that TED talk really bothers me, and I think it just shows the problematic nature Valentine’s Day can sometimes have - of assuming everyone either has or wants romantic relationships. I like the idea of Valentine’s Day, celebrating love, but not the romantic tone it typically takes...
re: "Single's Awareness Day"
tiogar:
I think Single’s Awareness Day is a healthy concept if you’re using it as “hey, some people are single, and that’s okay!” kind of thing. However, it’s kind of turned into a mess of “LET’S PITY EVERYONE WHO’S SINGLE” - and that, my friends, is a little fucked up. It’s okay to want a partner. It’s okay to be romantic. But it’s not okay to imply that romantic love is the end-all be-all and...
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Valentine's Day, Single's Awareness Day, and What...
aromanticaardvark:
Valentine’s Day is coming up, and I’m sure a lot of aromantics are already well aware of what Valentine’s Day promotes in the public consciousness. I don’t think a lot of romantics are aware, however, or if they are they don’t think about it. The entire idea of Valentine’s Day promotes the idea that romantic relationships are the ultimate relationship to strive for. While some...
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Valentine's Day for the Aromantic, now with 25%...
fluffytemptationsofwheat:
Read the full post here.
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As the description of this blog is "A place for...
gray-asexuality:
Please send an askbox message or Fan Mail to metapianycist if interested. Please signal boost this post, if you can.
Not specifically aro-related, but signal boost as many of our followers are grey-a/demi!
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lithromantic:
After going through many asexual and aromantic blogs, I realized that there was not yet a blog for lithromantics. Please feel free to use this blog as a place to tell your stories and ask your questions.
Signal boost!
Anonymous asked: Intimacy Cartography hasn't been updated in a while but it's still an awesome blog ran by an aromantic sexual. Cheers!
I'm thinking of changing the name of this blog.
And still keeping the Aromantic Aardvark meme a thing, but more of a running joke on the blog rather than the main focus, and making this more of a general aromantic blog (which is what it is lately anyways).
What do you all think? Should I do this? Any name suggestions?
psychetimelapse asked: Do you have any recommendations for blogs that are aromantic-centric with less focus on asexuality? Every time I think I've found a blog that's primarily about aromanticism, I'm inundated with asexual-related material. I understand there's a lot of overlap, but as a very sexual aro, it'd be nice to know about some spaces that are more relevant to me.
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aromanticsanonymous:
livelaughawesome:
saying “sex isn’t the only part of a relationship” is kind of erasing some aromantic people a little bit
it’s hard to fathom for a lot of romantic people
but for some people, sex is the only part of a relationship
and that’s okay if it’s all consensual
This is an important concept, I think. People tend to, without thinking, laud romanticism as the...
Anonymous asked: How do you deal with annoying FOREVER ALONE remarks?
mrmonochrome asked: To the anon: As someone who is a romantic sexual in a qp relationship with an aro ace - I have no desire to do any kissing, but I am quite happy to do cuddling!
Anonymous asked: Can you explain to me what a queerplatonic relationship between an aromantic asexual and a romantic sexual would entail? Could kissing be involved? Cuddling?
Anonymous asked: I'm pretty sure I'm ace and aro but I was wondering if my squishes are abnormal... Sometimes they last over a year or 2 and for some of them I get obsessed. For example, there's a girl I like atm. I'm always trying to impress her and I really want her to like me and for us to be good friends but I know we wouldn't be compatible as girlfriends. I also get really sad when...
Anonymous asked: So, I wondered if I was considered aromantic. I think my case is a bit weird, in fact. I get crushes on people, romantic crushes. But these crushes never become love and usually fade after a while (which get me in awkward situations where I'm just like "Okayyy, so, I know I'm the one who started all this, but I think I would prefer if we could just be friends, okay?"). You...
anshky asked: Is there a word to describe the type of people you're attracted to aesthetically? Like, I'm mostly attracted to men and masculinity, but I'm ace and grey-aro so I wouldn't want to use androsexual/androromantic.
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Sorry I haven't been replying to asks!
I recently had to have gall bladder surgery and haven’t been feeling up to it, but I’m now going through my messages and will be replying. Bear with me! I didn’t forget your message if you left me one, I swear.
Aromantic Flag
aromanticsanonymous:
sockhippie submitted:
“So about the aromantic flag I was thinking, which I think is a cool idea, what if we had a circle. Possibly green. And it faded from darkest to the lightest possible shade of green. The reason it’s so simple is because aromanticism is so complicated, from what I’ve seen every single one of us has had a different experience with it, and there are...
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“What’s up with the whole couple thing anyway? … I mean, why is everyone so...”
– David Levithan, How They Met, “Miss Lucy had a Steamboat” (via asexyquotes)
I think I need to read more David Levithan, since a lot of quotes from his books end up here.
“I’m single because I was born that way.”
– Mae West (via asexyquotes)
#55 You Know You're Asexual When...
youknowyoureasexual:
You have conversations like this:
Co-worker: “Why haven’t you found a guy yet?”
Me: “Because I’m not looking for one.”
Co-worker: “Oh, don’t be like that, I’m sure there’s plenty of nice [insert pastime here] enjoying guys out there.”
Me: “I’m sure there are, I just don’t want one.”
Co-worker: “Oh well, there’s plenty of time, I didn’t get married until I was 37.”
Me:...
#134 You Know You're Asexual When...
youknowyoureasexual:
You had to look away at the kissing scenes in cartoons & Disney movies when you were little because it was weird-looking. And it confused you that people would actually voluntarily do that.
“There are times when I’m alone and I think, this is it. This is actually the...”
– David Levithan, The Lover’s Dictionary (via asexyquotes)
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Anonymous asked: For the anonymous before I interpret exactly that way Adele's "Someone Like You", the nice thing about art is that while yes, an author may want to say somthing it can also say many things more.
Anonymous asked: Do you think someone could reasonably interpret Adele's song "Someone like you" as a song about a person feeling abandoned when their friend marries and forgets about them? I think so, yet my sister says I'm an oblivious idiot if I believe that. Your opinion?
Anonymous asked: Okay, so I'm in a relationship with a romantic sexual and I've... finally identified as an aro ace. The problem is that she's told me on multiple occasions that she needs me and she's made me promise never to leave her and she's planned our entire lives out but I don't want that. W
sockhippie asked: So I'm not sure how I feel. I don't mind the physical part of "romantic" relationships, I don't really like kissing though(sex is fine). But the gooey romance things weird me out. It's hard for me to define when I like someone just as a friend or not. I can see myself in a nice relationship one day but I'm not sure if it's a romantic one. I've never...
January 2012
47 posts
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demonhugs:
petition for aromantic disney princess
This would be so awesome!
“Let’s always love each other, and never be in love with each other.”
– David Levithan, Every You, Every Me (via asexyquotes)
nat-attack asked: How do people generally differentiate between romantic/platonic feelings? I love my best friend but he has romantic feelings for me and I don't really know how to define my love. Sorry if this doesn't belong here.
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Valentine's Day, Single's Awareness Day, and What...
Valentine’s Day is coming up, and I’m sure a lot of aromantics are already well aware of what Valentine’s Day promotes in the public consciousness. I don’t think a lot of romantics are aware, however, or if they are they don’t think about it. The entire idea of Valentine’s Day promotes the idea that romantic relationships are the ultimate relationship to strive...