Anonymous asked: Okay, so I'm in a relationship with a romantic sexual and I've... finally identified as an aro ace. The problem is that she's told me on multiple occasions that she needs me and she's made me promise never to leave her and she's planned our entire lives out but I don't want that. W

That’s a tough situation, anon, but if you don’t feel satisfied in a relationship you shouldn’t force yourself to be in it. Make sure she knows when you break up with her that romantic and sexual aren’t the only types of relationships there are, and that you may still want to “be with her” in a different sense. 

If you feel it’s best to leave the relationship, do so. It may hurt her, but ultimately you have to look out for your own well-being, and it will be better for her in the long-run anyway, since I can’t imagine she’d appreciate being in a romantic-sexual relationship with someone who doesn’t feel the same way.

Best of luck, anon!