aromanticsanonymous:

livelaughawesome:

saying “sex isn’t the only part of a relationship” is kind of erasing some aromantic people a little bit

it’s hard to fathom for a lot of romantic people

but for some people, sex is the only part of a relationship

and that’s okay if it’s all consensual

This is an important concept, I think. People tend to, without thinking, laud romanticism as the be-all-end-all of a relationship, that which is the necessary condition for a “relationship”, for “boyfriend and girlfriend”, for whatever title you see fit to attach.

It’s either sex and romance, or romance, or it’s not a relationship.

And that’s extremely erasing and disingenuous.

Honestly, I think everyone has different definitions of what “a relationship” is, and that they’re all correct. 

So yeah, applying your definition to everyone will always be bad news.